Posts filed under: Taking Care

TAKING CARE: Sing to a jauntier tune, don’t be a victim of aging

Alice D. Outwater, Ph.D. | Contributor  Few things chase people away faster than anger and complaining—first cousins to bitching and moaning. Can you imagine a more toxic combination? A sure...

TAKING CARE: Your body called, it needs your help

Alice D. Outwater, Ph.D. | Contributor As our bodies age, muscles begin to lose their strength and flexibility. We walk less, bodies may tip forward into an old-age stance, and...

TAKING CARE: Upstairs Downstairs, time to peek around the corner

Alice Outwater | Contributor My world seems to shrink alarmingly as I segue into old, old age. It’s a given that we slow down physically and mentally. Influencing this are...

TAKING CARE: Time to practice reframing situations with a positive outlook

Alice Outwater | Contributor Gratitude is a meaningful subject and I’ve paid scant attention to it in the past. I think I’d stowed it in a category of being appreciative...

TAKING CARE: This view is worth the climb

Alice D. Outwater | Contributor My husband, John, died after 57 years of marriage. By the time I had rearranged my life, selling both properties, purging all our possessions and...

Dear Diary, It’s about my mother, part II

By Alice Outwater | Contributor I woke up this morning with an epiphany about my mother, Agnes. A few weeks ago I had gone to the bookstore and for two days...

Loving Through a Lifetime

This week my mailbox was brimming with questions from daughters struggling to communicate with their aging mothers. What struck me is the accompanying pain for both women....

Taking Care- Africa: the elephant’s visit

“It’s important you read the list of precautions. We are in the midst of wild animals and you must respect them at all times. Although we haven’t had a serious...

Taking Care: Never too late to give a helping hand

"I once had a box camera, next a Polaroid and now a Canon that still uses film. A digital camera’s cost is out of reach for me but would improve...

Summer in the haute savoir

In 1947 at the age of 17, I went to France with the Experiment in International Living to be a counselor in a French camp....

Paris 1947: Of cathedrals and brothels

It was June, three years after the end of World War II. I was the youngest of 300 college students brought together by the Experiment in International Living for a...

Collectors or controlled hoarders?

My friend Sally and I spent part of a summer in northern Scandinavia hiking in the tundra with reindeer in the background. Several years later she and her husband bought...

Taking Care: Hoarders and their habits

“This is hard work with all the decisions pulling me in different directions. Do I keep this Norwegian sweater or cashmere or favorite blue mohair—but is it too worn?”...

Taking Care: Grumpy

I drowsily wake up in bed and reach over for John’s hand. His space is empty. I want to cuddle and feel all is right in the world with him...

Taking Care: The secret energy source: a lighter body 

Self-discipline seems like an odd topic to be writing about in our 80s and 90s. You wouldn’t have reached this junction without discipline. However, it’s worth shining a spotlight on...

Taking Care: Say it now, give it now

Yesterday I received a long letter from a psychology client I had worked with decades ago—so far back I had forgotten her name. She wrote that due to my help...

Taking Care: Cleaning out the house 

The next morning I opened the door to greet 20-year-old Tiffany with a giant Coke in hand. She had a tattoo on her ankle and her brown hair was pulled...